Read “Hold Me Tight” by Sue Johnson. This book is written for couples by the creator of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. It is a great intro that can introduce you to the concepts we use in our therapy, and can help you begin to gain insight about how you show up in your relationship cycle.
Don’t wait until the relationship is in crisis. Couples therapy can teach you many skills and create positive dynamics in the relationship that are best to apply early on.
Focus on yourself rather than your partner. We all have a part in the overall dynamic and the most helpful thing I see in the therapy process is when both partners are willing to look at their side.
Schedule consistently. We want to scaffold from each session into the next, and work to get momentum and change outside of the session. Couples will get the most out of the process if they schedule every week or two weeks at the most.
Let your therapist guide the process. Couples therapy is a process that starts by creating safety, trust, and understanding. This needs to go at an appropriate pace for the couple. Please trust your couples therapist to help guide you through the process.
Learn More:
Check out my full list of couples resources
Read my blog: Safety and Connection Part 1
Read my blog: How to Start a Conversation about Connection
Read my blog: Tips for a Great Marriage (On My Anniversary)
Read my blog: My Best Advice for Every Couple