equitable partnerships and households: care giving and unpaid domestic labor
I believe in equitable partnership, care giving, domestic labor. Here I’ve collected resources to support the transition to family, partnership, and parenting for all — especially women and moms* who tend to have the majority of the family caregiving duties, in addition to other labor contributing to the family.
*Women and moms, as referred to here, include all women and moms of any orientation. It also includes all individuals who identify as birth parent and primary parent.
Resources
FairPlay Card Decks by FairPlay Life: A tool to help couples and households determine who is responsible for household tasks.
”When you hold a card, you are responsible for its full CPE: Conception, Planning and Execution. What’s that mean? It means truly owning your task in full. So, if you hold the “Birthday Celebrations” card, you probably shouldn’t be texting your partner to get the wrapping paper.'‘
Molly Maid house cleaning check lists
Struggle Care website from KC Davis, also check her out on instagram
Online courses for expecting and postpartum parents by Dr. Cassidy Frietus
InStyle Interview with Laura from @thatdarnchat (love her account!) regarding ‘Weaponized Incompetence’
Reshma Saujani and the Marshall Plan for Moms
Links to research, articles, and other resources
to support equitable households and partnerships
Books
How to Keep House while Drowning by KC Davis - 31 days of compassionate help
Fairplay Life by Eve Rodsky: A game changing solution for when you have too much to do (and more life to live)
Podcasts
Therapy
if you are an individual in a realtionship that is struggling with equitable partnership and household issue, you may process the following in therapy:
Exploration of relationship imbalances • Voicing needs in relationship • Learning to not over-function when a partner under-functions • Setting and communicating boundaries
For couples and partnerships
Creating intentional partnership in the house hold • Transitioning from couple roles to parental roles • Resolving issues and preventing resentment • Advocating for your individual wellbeing