Your feelings are valid. If this doesn’t resonate, that would be something wonderful to process in therapy. Self-validation is a really important skill needed for empowerment for creating a “life well-lived”, and for healthy self advocacy in relationships.
Thought exercises to strengthen this muscle:
Get to the root of the feeling. Ask yourself:
What am I afraid of?
What am I needing?
What hurts?
Explore the history of this feeling. Ask yourself:
Where or when have I felt this before?
Externalize the feeling to someone you have more natural compassion for. Ask yourself:
What would I think about this feeling if someone I really love and cherish was telling me this?
Last tip:
There’s never anything wrong with having a feeling. It just matters what you do with it.
